Månadsarkiv: mars 2014

Beauty and diversity

I truly beleive that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, but if you don´t think you are beautiful inside and out that will shine through.

I wish that my children will always see how beautiful and special they are inside and out but I know that it will be difficult at times. We all struggle with accepting and loving our selves just the way we are and growing up in a country where you don´t look like ”everyone else” will make it even harder.

Sweden is a wonderful country, full of fantastic peolple with diffrent backgrounds and cultures. But there is still a long way to go before being mixed or non european will not be something that makes you stand out.

I love the fact that natural hair is getting more and more popular! It is not as big in Sweden yet as it is in some other places but hopefully we will soon get there too! We can all help by spreading and sharing knowledge to each other.

It has taken me a few years to learn how to properly care for my biracial childrens beautiful curls, and my goal is to teach them to appreciate the beauty and diversity of their hair so that they don´t grow up feeling like it is a burden and something that makes them stand out in a negative way.

Hair is hair and beleive it or not but by learning about my childrens hair I have learnt alot about my own bone straight and very fine(some might say thin too) nordic hair.

Growing up I always dremt about having long thick curly hair and I went to the hairdresser every three months to get it permed. Not only was this very expensive but it also damaged my hair so much that it eventually started to breake off. I wondered why it would not grow and looked for ways to get the hair of my dreams.

After some years I discovered hair extensions. I tried all kinds. Weave, braids, glue but nothing really worked. Have you ever seen a girl with synthetic extension hair that is looking so ragged at the bottom that it is almost dreadded hair? That was me…

The individual extensions with natural hair  that you attach with silicone ”glue” worked best for me. I was so happy and finally thaught I had gotten my dream hair. Sadly I woke up from that dream when it came time to take out those extensions.. My own hair had broken off in many places… This is when I decided to start caring for my own hair and decided to do my very best to help my children embrace who they are and love them selves just the way they are.

Using the knowledge I got from reading about how to care for naturally curly hair I slowly figured out how to care for my own hair too. And when I started caring about my hair instead of just feeling like it was no good, I started to appreciate it for what it is. Yes, it will never be thick or hold a curl very well but it is shiny and healthy and if I care for it properly I can get it to do whatever I want.

I hope that I can help someone else learn to love the hair they were born with, thick, thin, curly, wavy or straight. Hair is just hair but it can make a big diffrence in how we feel about our selves.

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This is me with my ”dream hair” before I took it out…